I randomly copy and paste things here, mostly so I can find them again in the future if they were helpful to me. These aren't my words, but darn close!
"I spent so long feeling guilty, feeling ashamed of my sadness, and you know what? It just made me sadder. You are allowed to be sad, you are allowed to be angry, you're allowed to be depressed. We all deserve to feel our own sadness in our own time.
Something you will have heard before - you deserve to be happy. That, of course, is not always easy to hear, especially in the depths of depression - so let me add something. You deserve to be happy - but you don't have to be happy right now or all the time.
It is okay to be sad, it's okay to not be ready to be happy yet. One day you will be ready to recover - that day doesn't have to be today or even tomorrow, as long as you know and trust me that it will come.
It's okay not to be okay."
I've found that working through it is much more healing than just pretending. When you're pretending, it all comes back up again at some point and you will feel like you're starting at the beginning. All those feelings of crap need to be noticed and felt to be able to move up from them.
This is so true - thanks for posting. At first, I spent time apologizing for my feelings and doing things I wasn't ready for because I wanted to seem "ok". I just didn't know what else to do. Were we supposed to pick up where we left off? Then I got some good advice - similar to this - that said to just let myself feel what I was feeling and be ok with it. To let myself feel that incredible sadness and despair that I was pushing down because I didn't know what else to do. It was great advice and it still works for me today. I might share this on my blog too, if you don't mind :)
ReplyDeleteAnd I just know that one day it will come.
Hugs to you.
It has helped me recently too, once I figured it out! I too tried to hide everything and it all started coming back because it was never truly dealt with. Since I had been trying to disguise things for months already, people have been having an even harder time understanding why all of a sudden I seemed worse! This is it, exactly! Feel free to share if you want :)
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